60 Ways To Keep Your Wife's Love

1- Make her feel secure- don’t joke about divorcing her, this will put a hole in your marriage.

2- Always greet her whenever you arrive

3- Your wife is a fragile vessel so take care of her- In this vessel there is a lot of goodness so treat her in a gentle manner.

4- Advice her in privacy and the best timing. Don’t advice her in the presence of others, it can be a type of humility

5- Be generous with her

6- Move out of your way for her, when she’s coming to sit get up and let her sit on your seat tell her: ‘sit here honey I warmed up the seat for you’

7- Avoid anger.

8- Look good for her and smell great.

9- Don’t be rigid, you will broken- just because you are a man doesn’t mean you have to be harsh hearted

10- Be a good listener

11- Say yes for flattering and no for arguing.

12- Call your wife with the best names she likes to hear.
13- Surprise her secretly. Example: Bring her a watermelon when it’s not the season of watermelons. Pick and choose in surprising her, be an artist in surprising her pleasantly

14- Preserve the tongue

15- Accept her shortcomings/ everyone has one

16- Show your appreciation to her

17- Encourage her to be in touch with her kin relations

18- Speak topics of her interest.

19- Speak of her goodness in the presence of others

20- Shower her with gifts. The Prophet Muhammad said: give gifts and you’ll love each other’ It’s doesn’t matter how cheap or expensive the gift is, it’s the thought that counts!

21- Get rid of the same old routine once in a while, scrub the rust. Example: Buy her ticket to a vacation cruise or something that she will enjoy.

22- Think good of her

23- Ignore some of the words/actions you don’t like

24- Add a drop of patience- It can go a long way- Example: at her time of pregnancy, menses…etc

25- Expect and respect her jealousy.

26- Be humble

27- Don’t put a price on her happiness.

28- Help her around household chores just like Prophet Muhammad did.

29- You can’t force her to love her in laws, but help her respect and love your parents.

30- Show her that she is an ideal wife; each and every wife is an ideal wife in many ways, so make her feel that.

31- Make dua’a (pray) for her and always remember her in your Prayers.
32- Leave her past to ALLAH (GOD)
33- Don’t show her that you are doing favors by doing your duties

34- Satan is your enemy NOT your wife!

35- When eating, don’t only feed yourself, feed her TOO! - Not only does it go to the stomach but to the heart too.

36- Look at her as a precious pearl, treat her and take care of her like a precious pearl

37- Speaking of pearls show her YOUR pearls SMILE! . Don’t put your smile out-of-service when you reach home! Don’t be rigid, smiling is Sadaqah  (Sadaqah (plural sadaqat) (Arabic: صدقة‎, IPA: [sˤɒdæqɒh]) is an Islamic term that means "voluntary charity". Prescribed charity collected or received for public welfare is known as Zakat.This concept encompasses any act of giving out of compassion, love or generosity (e.g. famine appeals).

38- Don’t hold grudges. Deal with the littlest matters and don’t ignore them, it will build up and will create a wall between you and your wife.

39- Avoid being harsh hearted and moody.

40- Respect her thinking; her thinking strengthens you.

41- Help her discover/develop her skills and her success within

42- Respect the boundaries of the intimate relationship- it’s a fragile matter.

43- Help her with the children; it’s not only her job it’s yours too!

44- Complement her! give her the gifts of the tongues

45- Don’t be a stranger to her meals, know your wife’s meals, and eat her food.

46- Let her know when you are traveling don’t just disappear, and also let her know about your arrival.

47- When arguments arise, deal with it and don’t run away from it.

48- Don’t share your home secrets with your friends. Keep your privacy, and don’t make it a garage sale.

49- Encourage each other to worship/obey ALLAH (GOD) Go for umrah (pilgrimage) together; listen to a lecture/recitation.

50- Engrave her rights in your heart and in your conscious

51- Treat her with kindness through happiness and sorrow

52- Don’t jump on your wife like a ball!, in fact polish your love with many kisses-

A kiss is a messenger- alqubulah rasool

53- When disputes happen between you and your wife, don’t go and share it with the whole world. Don’t leave your wounds open for the germs

54- Show her that you care for her health.

55- Don’t think that you are right all the time!-No one Is perfect but Allah (God)
56- Share you happiness and sorrow with her.

57- Have mercy on her.

58- Be the shoulder she can lean on!

59- Accept her as she is, she’s a bent rib so don’t try to straighten it.

*Side note: A dear friend once said: “a bent rib cannot be straightened, and in fact the beauty of it lies within its curve!”

60- Have good intentions for your wife.

60 Ways to Keep Your Husband's Love

1. Behave like a female, i.e. all the tenderness of a female–a man doesn't want a man for his wife!

2. Dress pleasantly/attracti vely. If you are a home-maker, don't stay in your sleeping suit all day.

3. Smell good!

4. Don't lay out all your problems on your husband as soon as he walks in. Give him a little mental break.

5. Don't keep asking him, "What are you thinking?"

6. Stop nagging non-stop before unless Allah (God) gives you something really to complain about.

7. Absolutely no talking about your spousal problems to anyone you meet, not even under the pretense of seeking help! If you think you want to solve legitimate marital issues, then go seek counseling with the right person who can give advice in either:

8. Be kind to your mother-in-law the same way you would like your husband to be kind to your own mother.

9. Learn all the rights and obligations of each other in Islam. Focus on fulfilling your obligations, not demanding your rights

10. Race to the door when he comes home, as if you were waiting for him. Smile and hug him.

11. Keep your house clean, at least to the level that he wants it.

12. Compliment him on the things you know he's not so confident about (looks, intelligence, etc.) This will build his self-esteem.

13. Tell him he's the best husband ever.

14. Call his family often.

15. Give him a simple task to do at home and then thank him when he does it. This will encourage him to do more.

16. When he's talking about something boring, listen and nod your head. Even ask questions to make him think you're interested.

17. Encourage him to do good deeds.

18. If he's in a bad mood, give him some space. He'll get over it, inshaAllah (God willing).

19. Thank him sincerely for providing you with food and shelter. It's a big deal.

20. If he's angry with you and starts yelling, let him yell it out while you're quiet. You will see your fight will end a lot faster. Then when he's calm, you can tell him your side of the story and how you want him to change something.

21. When you're mad at him, don't say "YOU make me furious", rather, "This action makes me upset". Direct your anger to the action and circumstance rather than at him.

22. Remember that your husband has feelings, so take them into consideration.

23. Let him chill with his friends without guilt, especially if they're good guys.
Encourage him to go out, so he doesn't feel "cooped up" at home.

24. If your husband is annoyed over a little thing you do (and you can control it), then stop doing it. Really

25. Learn how to tell him what you expect without him having to guess all the time. Learn to communicate your feelings.

26. Don't get mad over small things. It's not worth it.

27. Make jokes. If you're not naturally funny, go on the internet and read some jokes, and then tell them to him.

28. Tell him you're the best wife ever and compliment yourself on certain things you know you're good at.

29. Learn to make his favorite dish.

30. Don't ever, EVER talk bad about him with friends or family unnecessarily. If they end up agreeing with you, you will see that it hits you back in the face because you get more depressed that you have a bad husband–and other people also think you have a bad husband.

31.. Use your time wisely and get things accomplished. If you're a home-maker, take online classes and get active in your community. This will make you happy and a secondary bonus is that it impresses your husband.

32. Do all of the above feel sabeelillah and you will see Allah (God) put barakah (good luck) in everything you do.

33. Husband and wife should discuss and communicate with wisdom with each other to convey what they like and dislike of each other to do or not to do. Do NOT give commands or instructions like he's your servant. "They are garment to each other" [Surah Baqarah, 2:187]

34. Tell your husband you love him, many, many times. Aisha, radiallahu anha, narrated that the Prophet Muhammad, used to ask her how strong was her love for him, she said like "a knot." And the next time he would ask her, "How is that knot?" He also used to reply to her saying, "Jazzakillah, O Aishah, wallahi, you have not rejoiced in me as I have rejoiced in you."

35. Have a race with your husband and let him win, even if you are much fitter and stronger than him.

36. Keep fit and take care of your health so you will remain a strong mother, wife, cook and housekeeper, Insha’ALLAH (GOD)  you will not get FAT and frumpy..

37. Refine and cultivate good mannerisms i.e do not whine, don't laugh or talk too loud or walk like an elephant.

38. Do not leave the house without his permission and certainly not without his knowledge.

39. Make sure all his clothes are clean and pressed so he is always looking fresh and crisp.

40. Don't discuss important/controver sial matters with him when he is tired or sleepy. Find right time for right discussion.

41. The way to a man's heart is through his stomach.

42. Always let him know that you appreciate him working and bringing home the "dough". It makes it easier for him to go to work.

43. Make sure you ALWAYS have something for dinner.

44. Brush your hair, everyday.

45. Don't forget to do laundry.

46. Surprise him with gifts. Even necessities, such as new shoes, can be gifts.

47. Listen to him. (Even when he talks about extremely boring things like basketball or computers.)

48. Try (hard as it might be) to take interest in his hobbies

49. Try not to go shopping too much … and spend all his money.

50. Look attractive and be seductive towards him. Flirt with him.

51. Learn tricks and "techniques" to please your husband in intimacy. (Of course goes both ways.)

52. Prepare for special evenings with him with special dinner and exclusive time (no children permitted)..

53. Take care of your skin, especially your face. The face is center of attraction.

54. If you are not satisfied intimately, talk to him and tell him. Help him or provide resources, don't wait until matters become worse.

55. Ask Allah (God) to strengthen and preserve the bonds of compassion and love between the two of you, every day, every prayer. Ask him to protect that bond from satan. When a lesser devil destroys the love between spouses, he is the most beloved of satan. Nothing works like du'ah (prayer), and love only exists between spouses where Allah (God) instills it.

56. Don't EVER compare your husband’s to other husbands! For example don't say, "Well her husband doesn't do that, why do you …" (that’s a killer!)

57. Be happy with what you have because no one is perfect. If you want perfection, wait until you enter Jannah (heaven)  together inshaAllah (God willing)–and of course, vice versa!

58. Strive for Allah (God)'s love first and foremost! if all wives try to seek Allah (God)'s love and pleasure, surely, they can keep their husbands love too. And remember–if Allah (God) loves you, the angels will love you, and the entire creation will love you.

59. If you pack a lunch for your husband to take to work, from time to time, sneak in a little love note or sweet poem. If he doesn't take a lunch, leave the note somewhere else for him to find, like in his briefcase, or wallet or on the car steering-wheel

60. Pray together (Wake him up for Qiyam ul-Layl (in the last third of the night) and ask him to pray with you.)

(Above is written by a Muslim, hence references to Allah (God), Prophet Muhammad  and  Holy Quran (the Holy book of Muslims with a little editing by me. Adopt what you can to make your marriage a success)